The quest to do the right thing or to find the perfect solution is how the Self-Preservation One finds safety. Instead they feel compelled to insert themselves if necessary, to make sure every important detail gets scrutinized and perfected. As Naranjo points out, Self-Preservation Ones have difficulty loosening their need for control and allowing for a flow to happen. This subtype is the epitome of a true perfectionist, as they are especially hard on themselves if they don’t get things right. ![]() However, there are so many things to be done and worried about that this One is rarely able to relax. The Self-Preservation One does so to gain a sense of control over what is happening, and through gaining a sense of control, finally be able to relax. This tendency toward feeling anxious and constantly on guard can, in some cases, trigger obsessive-compulsive defenses that is, Self-Preservation Ones can become obsessive in their thinking and compulsive or ritualistic in their behaviors as they attempt to reduce anxiety by thinking certain thoughts or engaging in certain behaviors. Self-Preservation Ones can sometimes let go of worrying if they become convinced there is nothing they can do about a situation, but it is difficult for them to stop being vigilant if there is something they can do to have an effect on the situation. This One also has a faulty sense of security with regard to survival and an implicit anxiety about things not going well and the consequences of failure. This One has an ongoing sense that anything could go wrong at any minute unless they are on high alert to make sure that things happen as they should. They lack confidence that things will go as they should, so they display an excessive sense of responsibility that takes the form of worrying and fussing, even when things are going well. Perhaps because their survival felt threatened by out-of-control elements in their early environment, this subtype has a lot of anxiety. These Ones were usually the most responsible person in the family. Self-Preservation Ones often had a chaotic family history where they had to provide the stability, even as young children. This subtype has a need for foresight, a desire to plan everything out, and a compulsion to try to have everything under control. Under pressure, however, this One’s anger may leak out as irritation, resentment, frustration, or self-righteousness. Underneath, these Ones are very angry, but they control it. In the quest to perfect themselves, Self-Preservation Ones believe it’s bad to be angry and so make a virtue of being tolerant, forgiving, and sweet whenever possible. ![]() The outward result is an excessively gentle, decent, and kind person. In this subtype, the anger of the One, together with defenses against that anger, manifest as good intentions, perfectionism, heroic efforts, obedience to rules, and an obsessive striving for perfection. ![]() And this is a major shift-an angry person disconnecting from his anger to become a gentle, supportive person with good intentions. To render their own anger less threatening, the mechanism of reaction formation transforms the heat of anger into warmth. For the Self-Preservation One, anger is most repressed.
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